Saturday, September 10, 2022

WHEN DOES YOU START CHEATING IN A RELATIONSHIP !?

 This title question is often clicked on Google, we are puzzled by real experts - that is, participants in discussion forums on psychology and relationships, with a very long experience in them. And to this day, no clear compromise has been reached on any such forum or group on FB.

Because it turns out that how many people, have so many different opinions about betrayal and its criteria.

➡️ Maybe I'll tell you first what is a betrayal for me:

-Doing something against your partner's interests, which will clearly hit them.

- Undermining his position and not supporting him in clashes with the world.

-Mental betrayal - giving your heart to someone other than your current partner.

What do you say to me now?

➡️ The vast majority will consider the sphere in which they live (the level of consciousness, mentality), that is the genital sphere, as a betrayal. Betrayal for them is mostly or only physical betrayal. It is, in my opinion, a very simplified way of presenting the matter.

The institution of monogamy, as the name suggests, is an institution, that is, something created by man, not nature. It was created when property rights emerged after Eden left the hunter-gatherer age, into a harsh, hellish agricultural era, then industrial, and then digital. Before, there was no such thing as wealth accumulation and status differences. Men and women were fairly equal, what was collected was eaten on the same day, and then another wandered and took care of the food.

As agriculture began to be cultivated, it became possible to accumulate various goods. The material and living inequalities appeared, and some clever and very cunning people refused to work hard in the field and wanted to attack the richer peasants together to order them to give them back various goods and then to pay themselves regular tribute. This is how the elite caste and taxes arose.

Later, a caste of shamans (priests), bourgeoisie, and slaves - who were called peasants, bohemians, etc. And so the hierarchical system made itself known and changed many times. There was fear for existence, jealousy, and envy that they had more, thievery, wars, violence, crime, and contempt for the lower-off. And various other social phenomena. Along with the hierarchy came the desire of the group of alpha males that they deserved more women - physically weaker, and therefore forced into submission in this system. This was then transformed into the right of one man (husband) to have one woman (wife).

➡️ It was not done in the interests of young lovers, because no one asked them for their opinion on their own lives, their interest (your interest) is in a distant position for this system. Every human being, deep down, only wants a few things: as much sex and pleasure as possible, get out of their way at the least cost and work less than others. So every man is, as a rule, by the very fact of creating him the way he is, a whore, a party man, a hypocrite, a dodger, and a psychopath.

Yes, as a human being, I am also a whore, a partygoer, a hypocrite, a dodger, and a psychopath. Because that's the original record in a human's reptilian brain - kill those in the valley next door and take everything from them. And as a gnostic, I regret that immensely. But well, the perspective: “If God didn't want it to exist, He would have created this world differently. And if this is the case, then the current matrix is ​​still such that it allows it ”- it is very tempting.

➡️ Next: So the system of monogamy (owning only one partner at a time) and of marriages (that is, official permission to have sex and live together), was created not for two fools in love, but for the protection of children born of it. They secure the issues of inheritance, upbringing, and durability despite years of storms and marital wars, as well as obligations.

There are two models of relationships between our two closest ancestors.

1️⃣ Chimpanzee has a monogamous and hierarchical system based on the dominance of a handful of alpha males over others. So there is a lot of aggression and violence in this species. It always is, one does not exist without the other. It's like growing a model army out of test tubes, capable of defeating the army of those in the nearest valley. So we chose the path of competition, hierarchy, and violence.

2️⃣ And the bonobo is a sexually free American. There are a lot of mutual relations. They show less need for hierarchy and authority, are less likely to be aggressive and are more likely to be empathetic, even towards animals of other species. This was the case with us before the agricultural era, in which man got to know the bitter taste of inequality (i.e. hierarchy).

➡️ Hence the various predatory subsystems that control our matrix, such as hellingerisms, the law of attraction, karma, egregors, etc. These are not any spiritual wonders as esotericists believe. But they are iron bars that block our exit and keep the prison gate in check.

What else? When one party refuses to have sex, is the partner cheating by associating with another? What is your opinion on this?

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