"BACK THERE WERE TIMES ..." - WE REMEMBER WITH NOSTALGIA, COLORFUL 90s. DID YOU HAVE ANYTHING THOUGHT WHY THE 90s ARE SO WELL-FRIENDLY TO US?
The good old 90s. Flavored with Bambino ice cream and Turbo gum. With stamps filled with Sailor Moon cards. He flies with a Pegasus joystick in his hand. He flies with Walkman headphones on his ears and the First Communion tower on the wall unit. It flies in the warmth of the sun, with the wind in your hair. In constant pursuit of the ball, which inevitably landed at the furious neighbor.
I always had torn knees and elbows. I have had extreme accidents on the fold. I used to come home for medical and psychological consultations, and my parents sanitized my injuries with hydrogen peroxide. With tears in my eyes, I gritted my teeth and learned to be tough. So now I sit and drink hot cocoa, remembering those times. A feeling of longing and joy arises in me that I could experience all these adventures.
You know what? I even turned on a compilation from the 90s on Spotify. Do you know what the first song came on?
What the hell! You will suffer with me - let go of this number.
"90's." - for this slogan every one million twenty-five associations are born in the head. These are mostly fond memories or a sigh - “it used to be easier, we were happy”.
And it is precisely this happiness of the past years that I would like to talk to you about.
We mainly associate iconic items with the 90s. They bring to mind the most specific memories.
A while ago I was playing Pegasus in Ninja Turtles (my favorite was Donatello because it was purple). I noticed that it practically did not amuse me at all. Only when I was playing with others did it get interesting.
Imagine having a choice of plain ice lolly and McFlurry from Mcdonald's. Of course, the McFlurry will be tastier. Imagine having a choice of orangeade in a white glass bottle for 40 cents and excellent wine from Tuscany. The choice is obvious - today you will choose the wine, not only because you are 18 years of age or older. You just can afford it.
And yet it is Turbo gum, orangeade for 40 cents, and warm ice cream that evoke very strong associations. It is not their value or taste that matters, but the context with which they are related. Usually, this orangeade was drunk with friends, biting with clubs, and in "Ninja Turtles" you played with your brother. It is the fact that we have shared experiences with others that make them so valuable.
Back then, these items did not matter much. The fact that they gave us so much joy is the result of the experiences we experienced when we used them.
So you will ask:
What was it about those old years that attract us today?
Is it just plain nostalgia for a carefree time? We didn't have to be responsible, because then my parents took care of everything ...
Is it really a lack of responsibility? I do not think so. After all, responsibility is still being pursued today. People who take managerial positions, parents, coaches - after all, they are responsible for others. Often even proud. So we do not shy away from responsibility. After all, you want to be promoted yourself, do your own businesses, give birth to children - you accept more and more responsibility. Nobody is forcing you. So there is no point in sighing for this lack of responsibility from childhood because it is only an illusion.
"We had a little more exclusivity"
So I think we are approaching the most subcutaneous layers. We miss genuine closeness to other people and this exclusive atmosphere. We had a little more exclusivity. Our meetings were not disturbed by the beeping telephone, and the voice of my mother calling for dinner did not have GPS coverage. Our experiences were more saturated and more contrasting - expressive.
As children, we didn't have much - a few pennies for ice cream, maybe a few toys, and a bicycle. But each day was rich in new experiences. Everything was new and exciting. Each exit to the yard was an adventure. We had energy, some time, and the willingness to act. We were not afraid to try new things.
With time, we grow up and forget about this childhood excitement, because society requires us to be those sad clones, reflected from a template under the name of "adulthood". In our head, the flick switches from "being" to "having". We want husbands and wives, we want houses, we want cars, a lot of money, and a great job. And how often do we ask ourselves "who do we want to be?"
“If I have such and such a husband, I will be happy”, “if I have this job, I will be happy”, “if I have such a car, I will be happy”. I do not want to make mystical considerations about materialism here, but you will not be happy with things and people.
It's about experiencing. Looking at some period of our life we say - "yes then, I was happy". We generalize this state as much as possible. This is because the accumulation of these happy micro-moments was very high back then. This is probably how the cliché "happiness lasts only a few moments" was born. It may be a truism, but there is something to it. After all, 24/7 you don't experience the feeling of happiness. You are a little hungry, a little happy, you are a little worried, you are a little waiting, you are a little thoughtful. And happy? Only sometimes.
The 90s was also a time when we could have fun. Do not worry that it is not appropriate - children do. This freedom allowed us to take full advantage of these happy moments. Today, when someone is having a good time and we don't understand it, we consider him a fool.
If we translate the features of children's behavior into our contemporary reality, I am sure that the joy of the 90s will appear also today.
So what are we missing?
- curiosity about the world
- willingness to try new things
- openness
- ignoring stereotypes
- willingness to have fun together
- joy from shared moments
- enjoying the little things
- honesty
- simplicity in expressing emotions
It was not some extraordinary magic of the 90s that made these times extraordinary. Who we gave us the opportunity to feel happiness even more. I know it seems difficult. We are a bit ashamed, a bit afraid of what others will say, a bit we don't know how to do it. Notice that each generation remembers its childhood with the same nostalgia. Later on Facebook groups - "Born in the 80s", "70s lovers", "60s generation" and so on. Is it possible to arouse the enthusiasm of childhood in yourself today?
And what do you think? How to ditch this joy from the '90s?
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